I have 15+ years experience administering VPS-based email, web, and other servers, including Postfix, Exim, and Sendmail, and would be happy to take a look and investigate what might be happening in your particular case.
This bid assumes that there are some basic protection measures which can be put into place to control the email that is being sent through your server, and that there are no major issues found (such as hacks / rootkits / etc.).